Just a Thought...

As of lately, the reasoning for my single status has been brought into conversation with a few friends of mine.  No matter what we are talking about the subject always turns to how I need to find a man.  While I might disagree on 'NEED' for a man at the time, I can't ignore the fact that I have been single for the past 2+ years.  I hate discussing this topic because the question 'Why are you single?', always pops up.  The fact of the matter is I DON'T KNOW! Honestly, if I had any clue as to why I would probably be able to fix the problem.  Now I've been told many reasons why by others, but if I were to put a complete list together there would be way too many things 'wrong' with me, which would thus lead to a great feeling of helplessness.  And I don't need any of that in my life right now.  Perhaps the most current reason I've been told is that I lack assertiveness.  This one caught me off guard, because in general I thought of myself as an assertive person, but upon further review I realized that I was actually passive in pursuing a relationship.  There was once a time that I didn't think twice about telling a guy how I felt about them, but to most I was seen as nothing more than a good friend/sister.  Inevitably the thought of rejection paralyzed me and I adopted a new mentality that if a man wanted me that he would make the first move.  Unfortunately,  these days quality men are few and far between and like me they have grown afraid of possible rejection.  Thus leading to people like me being in situations where the people like each other, but are too afraid to actually admit to it.  This is sad, because all it takes is one person to be brave enough to take that first step and chances are that the other person has been feeling the same way.  So here is my pledge... if and when it is possible to tell a guy how I feel.  Lets hope that this plan doesn't back fire and ricochet me back to my passive ways.

Product Review

Dr. Miracle's Deep Conditioning Treatment

Last night I took out my mini twists that i've had in for the past week (it's been my go to style for the summer) and I wanted to give my hair a deep condition.  I picked up a couple packets of the Dr. Miracle's Deep Conditioning Treatment at a local CVS because they were having a BOGO free sale.  I also stocked up on Shea Moisture products that were also BOGO Free. I washed my hair with the shea moisture retention shampoo, did a quick condition with my Aussie Moist then rinsed that out and I put the Dr. Miracle's on.  The formula was thick and smelled like mint (both are pros for me).  Given that my hair is really thick it needs a conditioner with some weight to it.  I'm not sure if I would say it 'tingled', but instead I would compare the feeling to when you use a vapor rub, I felt it open all of the pores on my scalp and it was really refreshing.  I sat with a plastic bag on my head for a little over an hour.  If you are using a drying hood then you can cut the time in half.  I rinsed the conditioner out with cool water and my hair felt really soft and my curls were pretty defined.  I could definitely tell my hair was well moisturized, which was my primary goal. 
Recommendation:
I would definitely recommend this product to people, especially if you have thick, coarse, and  curly hair like mine.

Ingredients:
Thermaceutial Complex (Proprietary Blend ), Water ( Aqua), Mineral Oil (Parafinium Liquidum), Petrolatum, Glycerin, Polyquaternium -32, Polyquaternium – 10, Dimethicone, Lanolin alcohol, Menthol, Fragrance, Citric Acid, Propylene Glycol, Diazodinyl Urea, Methylparaben, Propylparaben, Carmel 

LA Crass... Wedding?

"My old man is a bad man
But I can't deny the way he holds my hand
And he grabs me, he has me by my heart
He doesn't care I  have a Las Vegas past
He doesn't mind I have a L.A crass way about me
He loves with every beat of his cocaine heart"

-Lana Del Rey

What's cooler than being cool? L.A. cool apparently, and brides are putting a very unique spin on their wedding themes.  What is L.A. Crass you ask? It's fast pace and indelicate city living.  This isn't the boho beachy lifestyle that most people associate with the west coast.  Instead its motels, cigarettes, and smeared red lipstick.  Here's a little inspiration board i came up with

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What's on the Menu?

Cheddar Broccoli Corn Muffins!!!
The other day I noticed that I haven't used my kitchen for a whole week other than to use the blender and make a green smoothie or something.  This prompted me to make a big dinner for me and my friends.  I decided to make jambalaya, but I had no clue what else to make with it because the dish itself contains just about everything you need in a meal. So I searched the internet and there was a general consensus that that corn bread would go great with it.  So I thought to myself how can I take this cornbread to the next level? Then answer... add veggies and cheese to the mix.  This is the recipe that I came up with and it turned out amazing... or at least that's what all my friends said when they tried it.

Recipe:

• 2 boxes of cornbread mix (I prefer Jiffy)
• 1 can creamed corn
• 1 cup of chopped broccoli (I also added cauliflower)
• 1 cup of shredded cheddar cheese
• 1/4 cup of milk
• 1 egg

Preheat the oven to 400 'F.  Make sure the veggies are cooked before adding them to the mix.  I used frozen vegetables and steamed them for 7-10 minutes, but you can also boil them.  Add everything together, but save about 1/4 cup of cheese to melt on top of the muffins later.  The mix should be kind of chunky and not very liquidy.  Grease a muffin pan prior to filling.  The cups should be filled about 1/2-3/4 of the way full.  Bake for 20 min. then sprinkle the tops with the remaining cheese then bake for another 2 min.  Allow them to rest before serving, but they are best when served hot.  Hope you enjoy this recipe, and feel free to substitute the veggies with your favorite.  I think next time I'll try it with spinach.