Is it sexy?

Here I am a young single black woman in the big city living out my deams and reaching goals... Now doesn't that sound nice? It sounds like everything is everything, but alas I can't shake the feeling that something was wrong with that statement. Oh yes... the single part. Now it seems to me that a young lady like myself shouldn't have to worry about finding a suitable partner, but that seems not to be the case here in Chicago. Now I'm from a small town called Winnebago (but I usually say Rockford because it's more recognizeable) and there I had some standard problems with finding a man. I wasn't a size 2, my hair wasn't long and flowing, and oh yes I was black! Yet, even there I still was able to find half way decent guys to bide my time with, but in Chicago... that's a whole other story. I couldn't find a man even if I tried. Well let me rephrase that, I couldn't find a man who didn't require me to make unreasonable compromises in my standards if I tried. No matter where I look, no matter how hard I try, I can't get a man. What is it that men around here want. Now I have a lot of male friends who give me a list of things they want in a woman, but when I go through the list of women they've been involved with it is completely different. So is this a 'do as I say and not as I do' type of deal or should I just follow what their actions show me? If this is the case I'm going to need to change up my whole classic girl next door image and go for straight: tight short clothing, big long weaves, and so long proper english and hello ebonics. Then again... I could just wait until Dental School when I move away from this strange place. Yea.. That's a better plan.